Denise Nabinger on December 7th, 2009

 

 

Does Hypnosis Work?
By George Knoechel

A lot of people ask, “Does hypnosis really work? ” I would like to support my answer with some statistics. There was a study recently conduced by American Health Magazine. It concludes following success rate regarding hypnosis:

1. Behavior Therapy – After 22 sessions, 72% recovery.

2. Psychoanalysis – After 600 sessions, 3% recovery.

3. Hypnotherapy – After 6 sessions, 93% recovery.

The results are an indicator itself that how successful the process is, when it comes to solving different problems faced by different people. A very few people understand that hypnosis is a vital healing and recovery process which is very dynamic in nature. It incorporates all the health care aspects which should be the hallmark of such a process.

Hypnosis makes a person go to the actual cause which sprang the problem now faced by the person. The subconscious mind of the patient leads the practitioner directly to the base of the problem. This lets the practitioner determine the root cause and then start solving the problem.

Hypnosis is should not be stressful and a person undergoing hypnosis is not only relaxed but also fully aware of what is going on. Even then the beauty of the art is that the practitioner persuades a person to do whatever he or she wants the person to do. Many people around the world believe that hypnosis can be effectively used to help people quit smoking and many hold it to be the last tool required for smoking cessation. Another application for hypnosis is weight loss as many can attest to its helping them to shed the pounds.

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When Divorce Hurts Too Long – Take the Long Way Home (6th in a Series)
By Mary Johnson-Gerard

Divorce is a process that takes different paths depending on each of our particular histories. Some people zip through a divorce as if it were something they do every day and for those who have been married more than twice, it probably is just that easy! For others of us, the divorce process may push us to the point of despair. Then there are others who are stunned for a time, but seem to be able to shake it off and go on pretty normally with their lives.

What causes these different responses to the same event? It can be postulated that the difference is related to the paths each individual has taken in their lives up to the point of divorce. The next few paragraphs are going to dissect reasons for each particular reaction to divorce.

The Zip Through But Get On Down The Road Reaction

This particular reaction to divorce and the path to recovery may be due to several reasons. The first might be that an individual’s approach to relationships has been to rush into relationships, make commitments, and then learn about the partner. There may be a tendency for these marriages to end more frequently and for there to be more frequent marriages as well.

Another reason for a zip through divorce path may be related to rushing into relationships but this approach has a deep overtone of hormones. An individual who is driven by their hormones or pheromones is actually making decisions based on physiological reasons ad not their head. They may be addicted to the electric sensual sexual rush of a new relationship and jump into a marriage before this phase is over. When it does end in approximately 18 months, there is really nothing left. No rush, no relationship. Hurry on to get the rush back and the electricity moving because this is confused with love.

The Stunned But Get On Down The Road Reaction

The group of divorced people who fall into this category of reaction is probably fairly emotionally healthy. A divorce should be a bit stunning and there should be a reaction to the event and process. It is normal for human beings to react to change and to spend some time learning how to accept and understand what has happened to them.

There is a period of mourning and going through a gird process and then the mentally healthy individual will start to see a light at the end of the tunnel and begin to adjust to their new status in life. This adjustment process often results in contentment and a new outlook on life, love and marriage. The person surfacing from the stunned but get on down the road reaction may choose to stay single ad be perfectly content with their lives or, they may choose to look for a new partner. No matter which choice, they are wiser and more prepared to understand relationships from a different perspective.

The Depths Of Despair But Can’t Find The Road Reaction

This group of people, who suffer long and many times not silently, is a difficult group to categorize. This reaction may be due to numerous reasons including: low self-esteem, a personality disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, mental illness, just to name of few. The overall hallmark of this group is their inability to let go of their spouse, to take responsibility for their role in the divorce, and their need to be seen a martyr.

All of these characteristics are normal responses to a divorce up to a point. If someone is still trapped in them after 12 to 18 months they have passed from a normal reaction and moved into what this author is calling Post Marital stress disorder or PMS. It is not hard to spot someone who has PMS. They are the people who continue to be depressed after the normal period of grief has passed. They are the person who tells complete strangers about how awful their ex-spouse was and continues to be to them. They are the ones who are desperate to have their children and friends hate their other parent. They are the ones who carry their cross out in the open and go through the story of their martyrdom at least two or more times a day (even if it only to themselves and not to someone else.

A person with Post Marital Stress disorder needs psychiatric help. They need to find out why this is their reaction to their divorce and to use this information to move on down the road. Their insistence on being wronged and deserving more is a sure sign they have unhealthy underlying mental health and potentially psychiatric issues that will not get better without intervention or treatment.

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Denise Nabinger on December 1st, 2009

 

 

Side Effects Of Divorce
By Bruce Zhou

Divorce is never easy. You will find that it can be extremely painful at times, but it also takes a lot of time to recover from all of the hurt and pain from the divorce. You will find that it may feel like it’s a death torture, and like you can’t breathe, but it’s just because you are filled with emotions. You may begin to start questions your value as a person, but you will find that analyzing the “should’ve been’s” and the “could’ve been’s” will only bring you down. When dealing with something like divorce, you don’t want to bring yourself down. You will want to deal with the damage of the divorce and learn how to repair yourself.

Divorce will destroy your self-esteem. You may go into a depression, and then you will begin to questions everything about yourself, including your sanity. It is like you have no clue what to do or who you are anymore, however, the divorce shouldn’t take that away from yourself. It should never take yourself away. You don’t want the depression to overwhelming you so much that you can not function. First, it makes them feel like they have won and have everything, and secondly, it’s just not healthy. You may need to take some time to find yourself, but you need to do it in a positive way.

Most people will do things that are very destructive. They will go out and hook up with random people. They will begin to drink too much, and they may even get into drugs. The key is to find the positive things in your life and figure out what it takes for you to make things better. You will be able to make things better when you move towards people who love you and allow others to show their support. It’s okay to fall back on others in this time of need.

You will need to get a hold of your feelings and emotions so that you seem okay or normal on the surface. You will want to learn how to accept the divorce and then make a plan on how you can deal with each day. Make sure that you do everything you can to move through the motions and not get lost, because it is so easy to just not get up in the morning or allow the depression to take over.

Always remember that there is never a door closed without a window of possibility. The divorce is a new chapter in your life and once it passes, you will be able to get your life back together and find happiness. It is human nature to feel depressed and hurt, but it is also natural to want to feel happy. Find what makes you happy and stick to it until you are able to stand on your own and pursue new goals.

There are many couples today that cannot make their marriage work and they jump to the conclusion that they must get a divorce. So there are some advice for them, if you want more about it, please visit my website: Effects Of Divorce

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Denise Nabinger on November 29th, 2009

 

 

Divorce – Are You Feeling Cheated?
By CD Mohatta

Are you feeling relieved after divorce or cheated? After many divorces people feel happy while in many rather more cases they feel cheated. Why? Divorce it self is a very painful process and the times that lead to divorce are more painful. The question is why get the sense of feeling cheated after getting divorce? Let us talk about this.

Relationship demands giving – People give a lot to their marriage; most of them do it except few. Right from the development of relationship, a lot of time, emotional energy and physical resources are given to make it work. During marriage the investment goes higher. Most of the partners want the marriage to work. There are exceptions that unbelievably want to destroy because of psychological problems. When cracks develop in the marriage, lot more effort is made to save the marriage and when the marriage breaks after putting in so much effort, one feels cheated.

Is this true for all? This is not true for all. There are few individuals who don’t give anything in marriage. They ask for it. The demand and contribute nothing. That is the game of selfishness played by them. So these people will never feel cheated. They will only feel bad that they lost an easy victim.

What should you do? The only way out is to forget the losses. Try to erase the past as much as possible. This will be difficult, but break the pain bit by bit. Work on it and it will go away one day. Try to forge another relationship and forget what went wrong. Cut your losses as soon as possible.

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Denise Nabinger on November 29th, 2009

 

 

Divorce – Are You Feeling Cheated?
By CD Mohatta

Are you feeling relieved after divorce or cheated? After many divorces people feel happy while in many rather more cases they feel cheated. Why? Divorce it self is a very painful process and the times that lead to divorce are more painful. The question is why get the sense of feeling cheated after getting divorce? Let us talk about this.

Relationship demands giving – People give a lot to their marriage; most of them do it except few. Right from the development of relationship, a lot of time, emotional energy and physical resources are given to make it work. During marriage the investment goes higher. Most of the partners want the marriage to work. There are exceptions that unbelievably want to destroy because of psychological problems. When cracks develop in the marriage, lot more effort is made to save the marriage and when the marriage breaks after putting in so much effort, one feels cheated.

Is this true for all? This is not true for all. There are few individuals who don’t give anything in marriage. They ask for it. The demand and contribute nothing. That is the game of selfishness played by them. So these people will never feel cheated. They will only feel bad that they lost an easy victim.

What should you do? The only way out is to forget the losses. Try to erase the past as much as possible. This will be difficult, but break the pain bit by bit. Work on it and it will go away one day. Try to forge another relationship and forget what went wrong. Cut your losses as soon as possible.

The author C.D.Mohatta writes fun quizzes and fun tests at http://www.funquizcards.com/ on topics like love, personality, dating, relationships, friendship, movies, tv, music, business, etc. The author also writes for http://www.ecarduniverse.com/ which has free ecards on holidays, birthday, love, friendship, family, expressions, celebrations and all events and occasions. The author also writes articles, advice and ideas at http://www.yourromanceguide.com/ on topics like love, dating, marriage, relationships, break-ups, etc.

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Divorce to Remarriage – What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around
By Alyssa Johnson

50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren’t they? But why are they this high?

50% of first marriages end in divorce

I’m not even going to make a guess at the reason for this. There are interpersonal, cultural, societal, financial and many other reasons why this could be. I’ll leave it up to the academic researchers to sort this one out.

75% of those divorcees will remarry

I was shocked the first time I heard this. But people are getting divorced younger and younger. Why not get married again? The problem lies in getting remarried too soon. Men are more to blame for this one. They typically remarry within 1 year. Women will usually wait a little longer.

Neither group waits long enough. Going back to the research – it shows that remarriages have the greatest chance for success when the divorced member(s) wait at least 2 years after their divorce is final to begin dating; and then the couple dates for another 2 years! So we’re talking a total of 4 years post-divorce here. Hardly anyone does this.

At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce.

Does this make a little more sense now? How many remarried couples do you know of who waited 4 years until they remarried? My guess is you’re like me and you’re answer is “not very many.”

The problem is that people rush into a new relationship when they are still reeling from their divorce. They feel “loved” again and want the security of a marriage when they are not ready individually and the relationship isn’t ready because it’s still immature. Then you throw the craziness of trying to put a step family together on this already weak foundation and things typically will crumble within months.

So…why rush?

Does it feel nice to be loved by someone? Sure it does! Does that mean you have to rush to the altar? No! If it is a solid and real love it will last through time. You need to take time during those first 2 years after your divorce to become comfortable with being single. Those next 2 years are meant to give you and your new partner time to decide if this is just a traditional relationship that’s nice for a time but won’t last or if it is something you can build a life and a family around.

Give yourself that gift of growth into singlehood. Give yourself the gift of time to create a marriage that will last.

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For more great resources to help you prepare for your remarriage and step family, I invite you to visit us at http://www.RemarriageSuccess.com There you will find article archives, tips of the week, resources and other sites that will get you on your way toward your very own remarriage success!

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By Alyssa Johnson at Remarriage Success.

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Denise Nabinger on November 23rd, 2009

 

 

Deal With Divorce By Dealing With Anger
By Gary Kelly

There is one very simple way to deal with your anger while going through a nasty divorce.

Divorce is a messy business. There is approximately a fifty percent chance you are divorced if you are over forty and reading this article.

Theories abound as it relates to the various stages one goes through while in the midst of a divorce. Some divorces can be easy and amicable, while others make War Of The Roses look like a Sunday school meeting on a warm summer day in August.

Having survived the first year of a separation / divorce, I can look back and see certain “moments” when I realized there was a fundamental change in the way I thought about a particular subject.

About five or six months into my rather messy divorce, I was having a particularly brutal conversation with my stubborn ex-wife. When I got off the phone I was feeling very upset and angry. Many unanswered questions swirled around in my head. How could she leave with the children? Why am I being treated like a deadbeat dad? How could this be so unfair?

Feelings of deep-rooted frustration constricted my chest. I recall looking at myself in the mirror and coming to the realization I had to get rid of the anger that was eating me up inside. The anger was killing me. If it didn’t kill me right away, anger would have put me in an early grave.

How did I learn to deal with the anger?

I learned to accept the fact that I was getting the short end of the stick.

There have been specific situations I have dealt with during the past year that have been completely unjust and unfair. The moment I learned to accept the mauling I was experiencing was the precise moment my life changed the most.

This philosophy is plain and simple to say, yet multi-faceted and complex to implement.

When you go through a divorce, both parties end up loosing. Unfortunately, the children often end up loosing the most. When you are faced with obstacles and barriers that seem so unfair during the course of a divorce, remember one thing – they probably are unfair. Chances are you are not being treated fairly.

We always do not get what we want in life. How we deal with the little surprises life has to offer us is the real measure of our character. During a divorce, some things will seem very unfair. Anger can be very useful but this emotion is best served left over during the main course of a divorce.

Yeah an ex might have screwed you but the important thing is to move on and forget about it. Recently I have spoken with a number of people with personal experience in divorce and separation. Most people have suggested to me, the parent with the most anger during a divorce ultimately ends up loosing. Children will be drawn to a happy parent rather then a parent filled with hate and anger.

If you have kids and are currently in the middle of a divorce, you would be well served to remember one small thing – don’t focus your energy on anger towards a ex, focus your energy on love towards your children. You will be much better off in the long run.

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Dating After Divorce – When Is It Too Soon to Date After a Divorce?
By Alyssa Johnson

Making the choice to begin dating after divorce may cause lots of emotions for you. The thought can be exciting, scary, happy or even sad. But what about the feelings your kids may be having about it?

One of the most important aspects to keep in mind when considering your children’s reactions is how long you have been divorced.

This has a huge impact on kids. Divorce research has shown time and time again, that kids take much longer to deal with all of the changes that come about as a result of a divorce than you are. By the time you’re thinking about dating again, they may still be reeling from the divorce itself.

Your dating makes this whole divorce thing much more real. Before then, you and their other parent just aren’t living in the same house. From a kid’s perspective that means there’s still the possibility that things may change and go back to “normal” (even though you’ve told them hundreds of times it won’t).

Once they know you’re going out with somebody else, it puts the finality of the divorce into much greater clarity. It’s NOT just that you aren’t in the same house now. It’s that somebody else may “replace” their other parent.

If this happens too soon, it can be overwhelming for kids. They are still grieving the loss of their old family and it feels to them that you’re already trying to replace it with another family. Even if it’s just a first date with someone, it will feel this way to kids.

Another aspect that complicates things is whether an affair is what broke up the marriage. If you begin dating too soon, kids may start wondering if that was the reason for the divorce. This will not start you and your new partner off on the right foot with your kids.

Because of all these reasons, be prepared for your kids to be upset to some extent about your dating. Does that mean you shouldn’t begin dating? Not necessarily. But I will offer these questions to you if you’re dating less than 4 months after your divorce is final (the keyword in that sentence is FINAL):

1. Why now?

2. What are you hoping for by dating again?

3. What have YOU done for yourself to help heal after your divorce?

4. How well are you getting along with your ex-spouse?

If the answers to these revolve around fear of being alone, not really feeling the need to look back at the previous marriage and there still being a lot of conflict between you and your ex-spouse, then I’m going to suggest waiting awhile before dating. Not only are your kids not ready, but neither are you.

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Denise Nabinger on November 12th, 2009

 

 

Men and Divorce
By Matt O’Connell

No matter how old or young you are or how long the marriage has lasted, there’s a good chance you’re feeling shock and dismay over the news of your divorce. If you’re faced with the dissolution of your marriage, you’ll be going through a lot, so make sure you’re prepared.

The reality of a divorce is it hits every man differently, but the truth of the matter is there’s really a great deal of similarities from person to person.

When you think of men and divorce, you’re facing a new phase of your life. You’ll no longer be seeing things as a couple, but as a man on your own. You’ll find you’ll feel a great deal more free, but the flipside of this is you may not want to!

When you get a divorce, one of the most important things you’ll notice is you don’t have the familiar landmarks in your life you’re used to; and learning how to navigate this new world is something you need to take into account.

One thing you’ll realize right away is you will be facing a very different financial situation. Depending on whether you have a prenuptial agreement, you’ll need to think about things like alimony and about the division of property.

In many ways, you may discover you need to consider many things that have been a part of your life and are now gone. You’ll find more than just your wife being gone, you’ll need to think about things like reduced income, a new place to live and the lack of companionship as well.

When you’re facing a divorce, it’s not the end of the world, but it’s still and end to a part of your life. You’ll find you need to think about what you can do in order to make your new life your own. Rather than simply drift into it, make sure you’re facing it with as much information as you can.

The more you know about a situation, the better equipped you are to handle it, so take time to make sure you know what’s coming.

To discover more on what you can do as a man facing a divorce, look into Great Divorce Advice for Men

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Denise Nabinger on November 9th, 2009

 

 

What Tax Issues Will I Have When I Get the Divorce?
By Zac Johnson

Divorce will obviously have a few tax consequences. The fact is that, when the partners were both married, they might have filed the tax returns jointly, but now, after separation, they might have to file returns as single tax payers for a period of time till they are married again. They will be faced with different filing statuettes as the rates will change and this will also affect the standard deduction amounts.

Before the Divorce

Even before the divorce is finalized, you might feel the pinch of the tax implications. Even during the process of divorce, couples these days, choose to file for separate returns. The implication of this on your financial status is that your savings will go down as joint returns have a lower tax liability. However, there are occasions when the filing of separate returns has a better tax result for a divorced couple.

The Value of Dependants

Even children have an effect on the tax issues. Herein, tax considerations also get more complicated. If you have dependents, then it provides the filter for an immediate subtraction from the taxable income of a parent. This would lead to a saving of thousands of dollars over years. You must also take into consideration the fact that such tax breaks are allowed only when the dependent will meet all the IRS eligibility requirements in this regard.
Other tax breaks in this regard include, amongst others, dependent care credit, educational deductions, child tax credits etc.

The Assessment of Assets

When undertaking the divorce proceeding, you must realize one thing. Your assets are going to get divided. Even if you have done the investment in your name, there is a chance that your wife will get an equal share of that investment. Also, from joint assets, you will now go towards single ownerships. As can be imagined, there are tax issues herein. If you have set your sights on a particular asset during the divorce settlement, it’s important that you just don’t look at its dollar value. You must also have a thorough understanding of the tax implications and only if you can afford those, must you make your choice.

Spousal Support

Alimony is tax deductible for the person who is paying, whether it is the wife or the husband. However, whoever receives the payment; needs to pay tax on the amount. It is advisable that both the parties maintain complete and accurate records as to the payments made with regards to alimony. The payments and receipts are used to ascertain the amount of tax that is deductible and the amount of tax that must be paid.

The requisite documentation will go a long way in solving all your tax problems and issues. The tax issues regarding divorce are something that you must be wary of before you start your divorce proceedings. You must consult a tax expert for this purpose and be well versed with all the knowledge about tax deductions. When it comes to a divorce you must be prepared on all accounts.
Tax issues will dictate a person financial status after divorce. You must be well aware of what you can afford so as to make the correct decision during divorce settlements.

Dealing with the divorce is difficult but fortunately there is a great resource to help men cope with the divorce. Find it here.

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